Storyliving

Pursue a bold and fun life. Tell more magnetic stories. Awaken change in the world.

Hey Reader

I am called to send out a bit of reintroduction.

I spent the first part of my life living out a myth that caused my soul to suffer. Deep down I always knew I waned to be a coach who helped people live happier and healthier lives. It took me 10 years to trust myself to do that and build a new myth.

I’d love to share that new myth with you today.

Watch the 5 minute video or feel free to read it below.

In 2008 I was a freshman in college. I enrolled as a business major having no clue what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. Or… did I?’

I wasn’t having the college experience that the movies portrayed (parties and sex) and I wasn’t loving business classes.

But what I did love was working out.

I taught myself how to work out all through high school and so I spent a lot of my time freshman year in the gym. One day I was trying to cheery myself up by getting a nice bicep pump on. At the end of my set I walked to the dumbbell rack to place the weight down and was met face to face with myself in front of the mirror.

I looked up at myself, signed and thought, “It would be so cool to be a personal trainer, but that’s not a real career path.”

So on I went working out, studying business and trying to make friends.

A few weeks passed and I was standing in the quad on the phone with my mom.

I told her, “Businesses classes are so boring. They’re all the same. Is this what I’m supposed to do?”

Moms, having all the answers, said, “You’ve always been great at math. Manhattan College is a great engineering school. Why don’t you study engineering?”

“Okay, mom.” I agreed with a defeated sigh.

So on I went to graduate with a bachelor’s in civil engineering.

3 years after graduation, it’s 2015 and I am 25-years-old living in New York City as a civil engineer working on the new World Trade Center, The Freedom Tower. I did it.

I was a good boy, who got good grades at a good school to get a great degree and now finally has the great job in the greatest city in the world.

I spent my whole life outsourcing my decisions hoping that if I was a good enough boy that I’d arrive at a final resting place of happiness.

Now, here I am, unhappy.

One average day at work I walk into my bosses corner office and get a glimpse of the Freedom Tower.

The $4 billion dream project.

I turned my head to exit his office and thought, “who fucking cares? It’s just another office building for people to go work at just so they can think about going home.”

I enter the 6-foot high cubicle walls and slump down in my spinning chair under the florescence lights and think, “This is it, huh? 40 hours a week for the next 40 years until I can retire at 65… then what?”

I could feel my chest tighten.

“Then I get to do whatever I want? What truly makes me happy?” Immediately I realized, “No way. I have to do something remarkable with my life now. Something that truly makes me happy and I have to do it now before it’s too late.”

That’s the day I made the decision that I was gonna ride my bike across America because that’s something that I truly love doing and never feel like I need an escape from.

In 2016 I rode my bike from Coney Island, NY to Seaside, Oregon. 90 days 5019 miles and it was the best summer of my life.

I realized that this is what life gets to be.

You don’t offload all of your life decisions to everybody else hoping somewhere in the future you’ll find happiness.

Happiness exist right now and it exists by making the bold choice to trust yourself to choose what you’ve always know you’ve anted all along.

In 2018, ten years after that day in the gym at Manhattan College, I finally quit engineering and moved to Colorado to be a personal trainer.

Since that day there’s been a lot of evolutions to get to where I am today but they have all been guided by one question.

What does my pursuit of daily fun look like?

Because there is no arrival.

The joy and love that comes with fun isn’t on the other side of a degree or job title.

It’s not even at the end of the bike trip.

It is the bike trip.

We spend so much of our lives chasing goals because we have brainwashed ourselves thinking that we can only access fun, joy and love on the other side of that goal.

That’s the myth.

While it is true your goals hold the energy of more fun, joy and love, you don’t achieve them by chasing them. You achieve them by matching their frequency.

When you trust yourself to prioritize your most fun and aligned life—to do what you already know you want to do—you start vibrating with joy, love and excitement. Now, you no longer have to spend your life chasing your goals, your goals come chasing you because like attracts like.

Your goals are begging to come hang out with you because they love your vibe!

That is the new myth to live by. This is my mission for you and I call it Storyliving.

To pursue your most authentic life it starts by understanding your story.

This is what the study of Narrative Coherence is: Get clear on the on your story which hold the bread crumbs of the truth of what you want your most aligned and authentic life to look like; and then you go pursue it.

Do not be like me and wait 10 years or rock bottom or needless suffering to be the reason you finally do what you know you want to do all along.

Narrative Coherence and Storytelling gives us the clarity and strength to be brave enough to take bold action now.

The pursuit of your truly authentic life become the stories you tell that change the world.

And your authentic life, is suuuuuuuch a fun life!!

I am hosting a free training on Monday March 16th at 12pm EST to help you create narrative coherence and learn how to tell magnetic stories.

Add the free training to your calendar with one click by tapping here.​

With love,

Matt